Category Archives: Creativity

2018, the Year to Be Kind

Dear Reader,

The sixth year of owning this blog has snuck up on me and I realize that, in my opinion (IMO), I have yet to say, or share, something substantive. What do I really mean by that? I want to provide something here that gives you a reason to come to this space, take the time to read and think about what I wrote, and go away with something that makes your life even a little bit better in some way. It doesn’t have to be major or profound, just worth your time and attention.

So where do we start? What would you like to read about here? What makes you feel more able to deal with whatever gets thrown in your way? Learning something new (although I don’t know what you already know)? Seeing a different way of looking at something? Learning to feel differently about something or someone? Improving your physical/mental/emotional/spiritual health without obsessing about it or spending oodles of money on it? What?

After thinking about it for most of the day, it occurred to me that the one thing we can all do, and get a really big return on our investment (which does NOT have to involve any money), is to be kind. To everyone and everything. And you know what’s really cool is that it doesn’t take much at all to be kind.

According to the American Heritage Dictionary, Second College Edition (1982, Houghton Mifflin Company), the first definition of “kind” is “of a friendly, generous, or warmhearted nature.” Being kind is not about being a doormat, gushing at folks, or acting against our values, but it can take us out of our comfort zones on occasion. Being kind is a premeditated attempt to make someone’s experience – large or small – better (whereas being cruel is a premeditated attempt to make someone’s experience worse).

Some examples of kind acts are: letting a person in ahead of you in line (any line); giving your seat to someone older, weaker, or more infirm than you on a public conveyance; offering to help someone with packages, pets, or small children. I came up with these three in less time than it took to type them. You can probably come up with ten or so off the top of your head.

Being kind doesn’t have to be active. It’s a mindset. Let me repeat that. Kindness. Is. A. Mindset. Listening without interrupting in order to understand another’s point of view is kind (although, good manners would put it as standard operating¬† procedure). Waiting without fussing until someone is finished doing whatever they’re doing is kind. Not eavesdropping on someone’s telephone conversation is kind.

Or are we straying into the realm of polite?

Does it matter? The words kind and polite are often used together. Polite is the absolute minimum for appropriate interaction between humans; it can be kinda cold (hence the phrase “chilly politeness”). Kind, on the other hand, implies some warmth in the interaction, and we all can use all the warmth we can get.

Next time, we’ll get into “validation.” And in this day and age, who doesn’t need all the validation they can get?

 

Advertisements

1 Comment

Filed under Author, Creativity

Tsunami of Crap Revisited

Tsunami of Crap Revisited.

Dear Reader,

I just finished reading Russell Blake’s blogpost. I agree with him. I write my stories with the following in mind:

1. I entertain first. If you are educated or enlightened, or both, in addition to reading a fun story, that is a bonus.

2. You, the reader, deserve and get my utmost respect. Anything I publish is my very best work. I have every intention of my writing skill improving over time, so you will have an even better “best” to look forward to.

3. My stories are between me, the storyteller/writer, and you, the reader. Always and forever. Period. No middleman. Just you and me, guys.

 

Leave a comment

Filed under Author, Creativity, Uncategorized, Writing

For My Next Magic Trick…!

Dear Folks:

When I first set up this site, I was deep into Book II –¬†Blood Bonds: The Castle. I remember having the following conversation with myself: What can I possibly blog about that folks will want to read? A novel is easy in comparison. I tell a story that goes on for about 250-300 book pages. Piece of cake. For me.

Blogging, though? It’s like a newspaper column. I need to come up with something new and interesting every time I post something. Yeah, right. So, here goes.

Last month/year, topics went all over the map. I touched on my creative process, my muse, the importance of language in writing, and the value of consistently showing up to the writing space. This year, however, is going to start with me addressing a more fundamental question: Why write in the first place?

The short answer is that I can’t not write. Stories, that is. The characters nag at me so much , I write down what they dictate just to give us all some relief. The interesting part is, instead of lessening the tension, the story-telling intensifies the need to write. The characters become more insistent, they nag that much more, I write that much more, the need intensifies, and so the spiral goes.

If that makes me sound a little nuts, so be it. The best part is, a new story is birthed, one that didn’t have life before I started writing. If I fulfilled my part of the bargain, the characters have been able to come through with a minimum of distortion by me. They stand and shine as people I delight in introducing to you. They tell you in their own words what is going on with them. They talk. I write. You read. Nice arrangement for all of us.

With luck, or perhaps I should call it magic, there is the question, “What happens next?” I want to know, too. Based on what you tell me, so do you. As long as “And then what?” gets asked and answered, I’ll keep writing stories. When the characters stop talking, then what? If that ever happens, I’ll let you know.

Warmest regards,

Rosanne Licata

Leave a comment

Filed under Author, Creativity, Uncategorized, Writing